Do you find yourself reaching for snacks when you’re stressed, lonely, or overwhelmed? Emotional eating is a common response to life’s challenges, but it often goes deeper than cravings or willpower. It’s about how we cope with unmet emotional needs and unresolved feelings.

Depression often feels like a persistent fog, dulling your joy and stealing your energy. For marginalized professionals, this weight can be compounded by unique pressures like systemic inequities, workplace discrimination, and cultural expectations. But beneath the surface, depression is frequently tied to unresolved attachment trauma—wounds from early caregiving relationships that shape how you see yourself and connect with the world.

Anxiety doesn’t exist in a vacuum—it’s intricately connected to how we’ve learned to relate to others. Our attachment style, developed in early childhood, plays a profound role in shaping our fears, insecurities, and emotional responses in relationships.

Ever feel like a small comment, a missed call, or a subtle shift in someone’s tone sends your emotions spiraling? If so, you’re not alone. Emotional triggers often feel disproportionately overwhelming because they tap into unresolved attachment wounds—deep-rooted echoes of past pain that shape how we experience and respond to the present. Understanding why emotional triggers feel so intense is the first step toward healing and reclaiming your emotional well-being.

Relationships don’t just happen in the present. Whether you realize it or not, the way you communicate, express love, handle conflict, and even choose partners is deeply influenced by your early childhood experiences.

Maybe you’ve found yourself repeating patterns in relationships—attracting emotionally unavailable partners, struggling with trust, or feeling like you have to earn love. These patterns aren’t random. They often stem from how love, connection, and security were modeled for you growing up.

The good news? You don’t have to stay stuck in unhealthy cycles. By recognizing these hidden influences, you can start making intentional choices that lead to secure, fulfilling relationships.

Grief can feel isolating and overwhelming, but for many, it’s more than just sadness. When grief intersects with attachment wounds, it can magnify feelings of disconnection, fear, and self-doubt, making it even harder to heal.

Understanding how your attachment style influences your grieving process can unlock new paths to healing and connection. Here are five signs you may be experiencing attachment-based grief and how therapy can help you move forward.

Grief isn’t just about what we’ve lost—it’s about how we carry it. The process of mourning often intertwines with our attachment patterns, shaping how we navigate the pain of disconnection. For many, grief can leave us feeling unmoored, vulnerable, and unsure how to move forward.

Attachment therapy offers a compassionate, individualized approach to grief, focusing on understanding your loss, creating emotional safety, and restoring a sense of connection and meaning. Here’s how we approach grief together through the lens of attachment.

Motherhood is a journey full of profound changes—joyful, challenging, and often overwhelming. For many parents, the postpartum period can stir up unexpected emotions, from sadness and anxiety to feelings of disconnection. When postpartum depression or anxiety enters the picture, it can feel isolating and all-consuming.

Attachment-based therapy offers a compassionate, effective approach to navigating these struggles. By focusing on connection—with yourself, your baby, and your loved ones—this therapeutic method helps parents heal, grow, and thrive.

Returning to work after having a baby can feel like an emotional tug-of-war. You’re balancing the demands of a career, the needs of your baby, and your own well-being—all while navigating a significant life transition. For many moms, this period can stir up feelings of guilt, anxiety, and uncertainty, especially when concerns about attachment and bonding arise.

When we think of postpartum depression or anxiety, the focus almost always falls on mothers. After all, they carry the physical, emotional, and hormonal weight of pregnancy and childbirth. But what often goes unspoken is this: Fathers and non-birthing partners can experience postpartum depression and anxiety too.

The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of unrelenting joy—glowing lights, cheerful music, and endless celebrations. But for many of us, the holidays are far more complex. They can be a time of gratitude and connection, but they can also stir feelings of loss, longing, or unfulfilled expectations. Balancing grief and joy during this season isn’t about choosing one emotion over the other—it’s about making space for both to coexist.

Painful workplace experiences can leave deep emotional scars. Whether it’s being passed over for a promotion, dealing with a toxic manager, or navigating the complexities of being laid off, these moments don’t just affect your career—they impact your confidence, self-worth, and even your relationships outside of work.

The hardest part? The professional world rarely offers the clean endings we crave. Unlike personal relationships, where we might at least have the opportunity to seek explanations or apologies, the workplace often leaves us with unanswered questions, unresolved feelings, and an expectation to “just move on.”

But here’s the truth: closure isn’t something your workplace—or the people within it—hands you. Closure is something you create.

As therapists, parents, or business owners, we often find ourselves navigating relationships in many forms—whether it’s with our clients, children, or colleagues. But how often do we pause and ask ourselves: How is my attachment style influencing the way I show up?

I recently had the privilege of diving deep into this topic on the Millionaire Mompreneur Podcast with Alexa Starks. Together, we explored how our attachment styles shape not only our relationships but also our parenting and professional lives. It was a conversation filled with personal reflections, actionable insights, and heartfelt realizations.

We’re thrilled to announce some incredible news: Attachment Style Makeover: A Workbook for Transforming Relationship Patterns has officially become an Amazon Bestseller, ranking #1 in the categories of Inner Child, Couples & Family Therapy,  and Psychotherapy! 🎉

Did you grow up feeling like love and approval were tied to specific roles in your family? For so many of us, especially in BIPOC communities, being a “good daughter” often meant putting others first, while being a “strong son” meant keeping feelings hidden to stay “tough.” These expectations often play out in family dynamics, where cultural beliefs about resilience and family loyalty run deep. While these roles may have been designed to help us survive challenging environments, they can also limit how we connect with family and create lasting effects on our relationships.

As we grow into adulthood, the family roles we learned can be difficult to unlearn. But when we start to examine these patterns, we can create space for healthier, more secure attachments that balance love with our own well-being.

November is Men’s Health Month, an invitation for us all to take a closer look at how we can support the men in our lives on their health and healing journeys. Men often face unique challenges when it comes to mental and emotional health, especially due to societal expectations around masculinity. As an attachment trauma therapist, I’ve seen how critical it is for men to feel connected and understood by the people around them. This month, let’s explore meaningful ways you can show up for fathers, brothers, partners, friends, and colleagues in ways that honor their experiences and foster secure, healthy relationships.

October marks Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a time dedicated to raising awareness, supporting survivors, and deepening our understanding of the complex factors surrounding intimate partner violence (IPV). While domestic violence affects people across all backgrounds, understanding how attachment styles influence relationships can shed light on why some individuals might be at greater risk of becoming involved in toxic or abusive dynamics—and how survivors can move toward healing.

If you’re a fan of Love is Blind, you know the premise: singles search for true love without ever laying eyes on each other. By getting to know someone deeply, they form connections built solely on conversation, chemistry, and emotional compatibility. But with attachment styles shaping so much of how we relate to others, it raises a fascinating question: Could attachment styles be influencing how these couples bond in the pods?

We often think of attachment trauma as something that affects our personal relationships, but what happens when it shows up at work? The workplace is a social environment, filled with hierarchies, expectations, and relationships that can trigger old wounds in unexpected ways. If you’ve ever found yourself feeling undervalued, anxious about feedback, or struggling with conflict at work, your attachment history may be at play.

In this post, we’ll explore how attachment trauma can manifest in professional settings and provide practical steps to navigate the workplace with more confidence and emotional resilience.

When people think about attachment trauma, the focus often lands on romantic relationships or family dynamics. But what about friendships? Friendships play a huge role in our emotional lives, and they can become both a source of comfort and a trigger for unresolved attachment wounds.