Attachment-Informed Spiritual Healing:
Rebuilding how you relate to God—without fear, shame, or performance.
Serving Connection in CT, DE, FL, GA, ID, SC, & VT
When faith has been filtered through fear…
Many clients come to me knowing, logically, that they’re created in God’s image, yet they’ve never felt safe enough to fully believe it. They carry spiritual wounds of never feeling “good enough”—whether in relationships, at work, in their bodies, or in their faith. They’re tired of praying to feel worthy and still coming up short.
Maybe that’s you.
You were taught to seek God but not how to trust that He’d seek you back, even in your shame. You learned to serve, sacrifice, and stay silent, but not how to sit with the Holy Spirit and listen to what’s really coming up. And in the moments you needed closeness with God most (when you messed up, felt depressed, doubted your worth) you pulled away.
Because somewhere along the line, you learned: connection is conditional.
What if it’s not? What if God doesn’t ghost when you’re hurting? What if you don’t have to earn the nearness that’s already offered?
You Might Be Here Because…
You feel like you’re always trying to “do more” for God, but never feel closer
You struggle to pray, worship, or study scripture when you feel shame or emotional pain
You’ve been harmed by church culture, purity culture, or religious control
You fear disappointing God—even over small things
You swing between spiritual intimacy and total avoidance depending on how you feel
You’re healing from spiritual confusion, deconstruction, or leaving a high-control faith tradition
There’s space here for your emotions, doubts, and healing—not as spiritual failures, but as sacred invitations.
Where Faith and Attachment Meet
Attachment theory helps us understand how we form emotional bonds—and how past experiences shape our relationships, including with God.
Anxious attachment may show up as spiritual people-pleasing: striving to earn God’s love and blaming yourself when life gets hard
Dismissive avoidant attachment may lead you to resist prayer or closeness with God, protecting yourself from “not measuring up”
Fearful avoidant attachment can create a push-pull dynamic: seeking God when you’re “doing well” but retreating in shame when you’re not
Secure attachment means trusting that God is a safe place—even when you’re not at your best
Therapy rooted in spiritual safety and cultural clarity
This work isn’t about teaching you more scripture. It’s about helping you:
Feel safe enough to bring your whole self to God
Understand how your emotional wiring shaped your faith journey
Rebuild your spiritual life with compassion, clarity, and presence
I often work with clients from the BIPOC community who’ve been told that therapy is a sign of weak faith—or that healing should only come through prayer. We shift that narrative. God gifts therapists like He does surgeons: to help you heal, not replace Him. It’s not faithless to get help. It’s faith-full to be human in the healing.
“What’s coming up for you?” isn’t just a therapy question. It’s a spiritual one too.
This space is for…
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Those in Spiritual Transition or Deconstruction
You’re reconsidering what you believe—or how you believe it. Whether you’re untangling years of doctrine, leaving a denomination, or simply shifting your spiritual lens, therapy gives you a nonjudgmental space to process and explore.
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Survivors of Church Hurt, Religious Trauma, or Cults/High-Control Groups
If your past faith experience included fear, shame, manipulation, or emotional control, it can leave deep wounds. You may still believe—but struggle to feel safe within that belief. This space helps you name what happened and move toward a healthier spiritual relationship.
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Those Longing to Feel God’s Love as Safe, Not Conditional
You’ve internalized the idea that closeness with God must be earned—or that His love comes with strings. Here, we explore where that narrative came from and gently rewrite it. You don’t have to prove your worth to be held by love.
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Those Wanting to Integrate Healing and Faith
You’re not abandoning your faith—you’re trying to embody it in a way that feels more secure, more whole. This work supports you in bridging your therapeutic growth with your relationship with God—so you don’t feel torn between healing and belief.
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Anyone Tired of Performing Spiritually
If your walk with God has felt like striving, hiding, or never measuring up, you’re not alone. This work is for those ready to experience spiritual intimacy without spiritual pressure—to return to God not just as Lord, but as a secure base.
You might be wondering…
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No. While this space welcomes spiritually minded clients, I work with a full spectrum of beliefs. What matters most is your emotional safety.
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You are safe here. You won’t be shamed for questioning theology or grieving lost community. I hold your spiritual grief as valid.
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Not at all. Therapy helps create the internal safety to hear God more clearly, not less. Think of it as clearing space to listen—not replacing what’s sacred.
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You’re not alone. That shame often comes from insecure attachment, not truth. Together we work toward a more secure spiritual connection, where conviction is gentle and shame doesn’t lead.
How to Get Started
Book a free 30-minute consultation
No pressure. Just space to share what’s been happening and what support might look like.Explore your spiritual and emotional story
We’ll honor your faith background, clarify your attachment style, and locate the spiritual shame or performance that’s kept you stuck.Build secure connection with God, and yourself
Not through perfection—but through presence, attunement, and curiosity.
