How Your Attachment Style Affects Your Marriage (and How to Build Security as a Couple)

Marriage isn’t just about love—it’s about how you and your partner relate to one another.

Why do some couples feel effortlessly secure, while others struggle with emotional distance, misunderstandings, or cycles of conflict? Often, it comes down to attachment styles—the patterns we develop in childhood that shape how we connect, communicate, and navigate intimacy in adulthood.

If you’ve ever wondered why you and your partner experience conflict in a certain way, or why one of you seems to crave closeness while the other needs space, understanding attachment theory can help.